When you lose confidence in yourself it’s really hard to stay positive. You start to believe that you’ll be unemployed forever, that you’ll always struggle with money, and that you don’t deserve happiness. It’s time to stop being so hard on yourself.
We all have times in our life when we lack confidence and don’t feel good about ourselves.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of. Having low self-esteem can be as a result of a number of things, including mixed messages from partners, parents, siblings, friends, teachers, even the media. For some reason, low self-esteem makes us feel that we are not good enough and that feeling sticks.
Life can be extremely challenging and stressful. Sometimes we’ve never spoken to anybody about our worries or fears, maybe that’s because we’re nervous of opening up, or maybe that’s because we’re confused about the way we’re feeling. Our staff won’t judge you; they are here to help you identify your biggest concerns and to help you to find ways to overcome them. Worrying will never change the outcome of a problem, it’s time to take charge and regain control of your life. It might sound cheesy but you must stop being hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to bring others down. Love yourself and be proud of everything you do, even mistakes mean you are trying.
Common insecurities and concerns:
Most of us feel insecure sometimes, but some of us feel insecure most of the time. The kind of childhood you had, past traumas, recent experiences of failure or rejection, loneliness, social anxiety, negative beliefs about yourself, perfectionism, or having a critical parent or partner can all contribute to insecurity. The graphic wheel below shows some of the most common concerns which cause us to lose confidence in ourselves: